During the nine months that I waited for my daughter, I imagined how this new baby will only bring me pleasure and the happiest of emotions until i found out that my wife cheating. The world of absolute happiness without crying, waking up at night and, most importantly, without a sense of fear and absolute helplessness. I was afraid that I wasn’t competent enough to bring a child into this world filled with horrible things and people. And I didn’t know how to communicate with a child that doesn’t know how the speak yet, how can you do something like that at all? And then it dawned on me that I don’t have to talk, but rather sing.
What newborn children can do: eat, sleep and ... eat again. I noticed that it was more fun for my daughter to handle this with musical accompaniment. It is not surprising, because in the adult world there is music for literally every occasion, for romantic evenings, sports or even standing in an elevator. And here I faced the problem of choice. What music should I play to my baby: pop, classics? And is it worth it to include someone else in our communication from the first hours of a child’s life, even if it is not a person, but music?
And, as is usually the case, by sheer chance I remembered that in the world of children there is a unique instrument of communication between mother and baby - a lullaby!
I got my college notes on the history of folklore (I graduated from the Faculty of Philology), and began to re-delve into the subject.
A lullaby is first and foremost a rhythm that introduces a person into harmony with the rhythms of nature. In the same rhythm in the old days it was customary to talk about the magical creatures, fairy tales, myths and legends. The goal of lullabies is not really to put a baby to sleep, but to immerse it in an atmosphere of serenity, peace, give it a sense of unity with the world and a sense of security. This is a vivid example of the so-called "everyday magic", when the simplest thing like music can make wonders, and in this case, helps to put your child to sleep. Lullabies even helped to treat sick and weak children, because the warmth of their mother's hands, the rhythm of her heart, her gentle voice singing gentle words - all this together has an amazing therapeutic effect on a baby.
But even this is not the most important thing. Most importantly, a lullaby is a great way to introduce a baby to the outside world. Tell it that in the world there are day and night, the sun, the moon and the stars, birds and beasts, grass, trees and people.
The fact that there is love in the world, a child learns without words: after all, lullabies are sung for only those who are truly loved.
It was a theory, but now it’s time to do some practice: it is not worth to be afraid that you don’t know a single lullaby. Have you not accumulated some words for the dearest person in the world during the nine months of pregnancy? Lullabies were created this way: a mother invented a melody for her offspring, then sang it to her grandchildren, the grandchildren altered it to their children, and so the cherished words were passed from mouth to mouth, from the older generation to the younger ones.
Today, all mummies have a great opportunity to expand and accelerate this process by sharing ideas of lullabies through forums on the Internet. So don’t be afraid to make up and share your lullabies with other mothers online.